Something very hard about pregnancy is remembering that your partner is in love with you (if he weren't he would have ran away the minute you told him about your future arrival), and since he is not in your body, is not a woman and never will be, well, he probably has a very hard time understanding what you are going through. You need to talk to him about it, and you should not feel guilty, he needs to know you still love him and what he can do to help you. Talking with my husband I found out how worried he was for me that I looked so tired, that he was scared he might lose me and that he wanted to help me all he could through this.
I did feel guilty about how little I seemed to accomplish with my heavy body, I also had to tell him that I could not stand him eating onions or having chicken tikka or southwest sauce on his sandwiches anymore and that something about him was different. It turns out that with the pregnancy hormones, the way he smells was different to me. I am not saying there that my husband smells, but every human being as a body smell that is exceedingly discreet but unique, that is how for instance your baby will know who you are instantly when coming out of the womb. During pregnancy, your hormones change the way everything smells and tastes and it is normal that you feel like there is something different about your husband, and you'll see that the minute the baby is there your husband will feel just the same as he was before you were pregnant.
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